{"id":1842,"date":"2010-03-12T16:55:16","date_gmt":"2010-03-13T00:55:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.leftyparent.com\/blog\/?p=1842"},"modified":"2010-03-12T16:55:16","modified_gmt":"2010-03-13T00:55:16","slug":"patriarchy-does-not-do-men-any-favors","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.leftyparent.com\/blog\/2010\/03\/12\/patriarchy-does-not-do-men-any-favors\/","title":{"rendered":"Patriarchy Does Not Do Men any Favors"},"content":{"rendered":"

Robin Edgar, responded to my previous \u201cCadillac & Power-Over Sexuality\u201d post with a heads up on another ad from the Super Bowl that illustrates the whole \u201cpower-over\u201d thing to a tee. I found the ad on YouTube…
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\n[youtube]http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=hNUWOu5BBX4 [\/youtube]
\nTruly worthy of a Ms Magazine<\/em> \u201cno comment\u201d this is illustrative of the subtle perpetuation of patriarchal principles through, in this case, (attempts at) humor. Did you ever have someone say something nasty to you, and when you call them on it, they say, \u201cI\u2019m only kidding\u201d. Maybe so… but it\u2019s a time-honored tactic to deliver a message without taking responsibility for it. And everyone knows that feminists have no sense of humor right?
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\nYeah right!
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\nYet the ancient patriarchal wisdom propagated (like a virus) by this ad does not do men any favors either. Some might laugh at this vignette of the guy kicking his way hot babe of a wife out of his car to protect his more valued Bridgestone tires, but how does it portray him? What are we guys supposed to do if we are watching TV with our female friends or partner and this ad crosses the screen? Laugh, since they\u2019re \u201conly kidding\u201d and hope our female comrade(s) do too? Pretend like we were distracted by the cat and missed it? Or maybe brave nervous titters from the female fellow viewers (or be politically correct, depending on your political orientation) and say, \u201cThat\u2019s disgusting!\u201d
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\nThe guy behind the wheel is a major-league sleaze-ball, by any measure, and his black-leather clad hotee wife has discovered the true reality of male\/female relationships in the patriarchal hierarchy… women are expendable in men\u2019s quest for survival in a cruel world, even if it is, of course, \u201call in jest\u201d. And she is further disgraced (chuckle, chuckle) by not being of any interest to the highwaymen who just want those damn Bridgestone tires.
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\nThe joke is that we men treasure our \u201cstuff\u201d over the people in our life, so we men cannot therefore be trusted. If we laugh at the ad in the presence of the women in the room, or they laugh instead or in addition, then we all are acknowledging \u201cmessage received\u201d, and the wisdom of 6000-year-old dominator warlords lives another day, perpetuated like some software virus into our subconscious minds.
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\nThe only solution I can see to avoid serious diminution of your humanity as a male person is to call it out for what it is… disgusting and hateful. If your female comrades have to say that first, you have at least momentarily put the fear in them that they have been put on notice, and maybe your ascent to their revulsion is just perfunctory. And it puts you on notice that you have to risk perhaps seeming \u201cpussy-whipped\u201d by disavowing any connection with this ancient \u201cwisdom\u201d in contemporary guise.
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\nI call these patriarchal messages \u201cancient wisdom\u201d to be provocative (as you may well have figured out by now). But this idea of \u201csuperiors\u201d over \u201cinferiors\u201d, including man over woman, comes to us from our earliest recorded history if not before. Maybe you buy the argument of anthropologist Marija Gimbutas (featured in Riane Eisler\u2019s book The Chalice and the Blade) who dug up 6000-year-old evidence in Eastern Europe of patriarchal nomadic herding tribes invading the more peaceful, more egalitarian agrarian societies in the fertile basins around the Mediterranean Sea. Or maybe you are more of a traditionalist and believe that men have always been barbaric and domineering by nature and that civilization has been a gradual effort to, well, \u201ccivilize them\u201d.
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\nWhatever your take on ancient history, the old records show societies where there was a strict hierarchy with in-group men on top, in-group women below them, and out-group men and women (mostly slaves) at the bottom of that hierarchy. Stories from Classical Greek culture, like the Iliad and the Odyssey show women as pawns of male conflicts and power politics.
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\nThe Bible provides unparalleled documentation of rigidly male-dominant tribes, led by violent and warlike men that were extremely hierarchic, the men on top claiming authority directly from God. One of the most striking stories is in Judges 19:23-24, the story is told of a man who protects his esteemed male guest from an angry mob outside by offering the mob his virgin daughter and his guest\u2019s concubine to be raped instead. A stark example of the subjugation and devaluing of women…<\/p>\n

Judges 19:23 – And the man, the master of the house, went out unto them, and said unto them, Nay, my brethren, nay, I pray you, do not so wickedly; seeing that this man is come into mine house, do not this folly.<\/p>\n

Judges 19:24 – Behold, here is my daughter a maiden, and his concubine; them I will bring out now, and humble ye them, and do with them what seemeth good unto you: but unto this man do not so vile a thing.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

The Bridgestone commercial seems to me (an attempt at) a humorous play on this biblical vignette. The male driver jettisons in this case his wife (the hot babe in black leather) in favor of hanging on to his more valued (hah hah) tires for his hot car.
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\nBut even though you might consider the message now cast in a humorous light, this is a riff on an ancient tale that reminds women that their place is at the bottom of the pecking order. A message that has somehow passed through hundreds of generations and still has some salience today, an indication of the continued power of these patriarchal principles.
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\nSo I for one, a 54-year-old male with a female life partner and a lot of female friends, do not want or need this kind of archaic hate-thought continually repackaged as pithy commentary on what guys really care about. I don\u2019t want any member of my gender associated with it. I don\u2019t want women to role their eyes when they talk about \u201cmen\u201d and then quietly growl at me when I walk in the room.
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\nWhat sort of culture do we have where the supposed marketing \u201cexperts\u201d on what is going to get a rise out of young males watching the Super Bowl on TV, dish up this sort of ad?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Robin Edgar, responded to my previous \u201cCadillac & Power-Over Sexuality\u201d post with a heads up on another ad from the Super Bowl that illustrates the whole \u201cpower-over\u201d thing to a tee. I found the ad on YouTube… [youtube]http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=hNUWOu5BBX4 [\/youtube] Truly worthy of a Ms Magazine \u201cno comment\u201d this is illustrative of the subtle perpetuation of […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[718,717,716,719],"class_list":["post-1842","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-context","tag-ancient-wisdom","tag-patriarchal-wisdom","tag-superbowl-bridgestone-tire-ad","tag-transmission-of-patriarchal-wisdom"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.leftyparent.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1842","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.leftyparent.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.leftyparent.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.leftyparent.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.leftyparent.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1842"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/www.leftyparent.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1842\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1848,"href":"https:\/\/www.leftyparent.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1842\/revisions\/1848"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.leftyparent.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1842"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.leftyparent.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1842"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.leftyparent.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1842"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}