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Posts Tagged ‘venus and mars’

Guns & Barbies

Thursday, April 30th, 2009

In a household that was open to just about everything else, Sally and I had one rule expressing our most deeply held values and limiting what could come into the house… no toy (or real) guns and no Barbie dolls, two icons of the patriarchal paradigm. I used to laugh that it would be a great name for a punk band… “Guns & Barbies”. Though we never insisted or even encouraged Eric & Emma to follow this rule in their own lives outside our house, we wanted to model for our kids having an ethical bottom-line that you stick to.

There continues to be a great deal of discussion, research and writing related to whether violent play and a fascination with guns is inherent or learned behavior for boys. I believe the later to be true, despite the abundance of cultural mythology and evidence presented to the contrary. Though a higher level of testosterone is a biological reality of male bodies, I strongly believe that playing with weapons and violent play is socially constructed. (more…)

Cooties

Saturday, March 28th, 2009

Looking back, one of the great disappointments of my youth was my inability to have a fully functional romantic relationship with any of the number of intelligent, charming, vivacious young women I had the good fortune to get to know and who were interested in me romantically. Oh the first, second and third base, and who knows what other shared adventures I could have had with this wonderful coterie of female companions! I try not to have regrets, but I still do from time to time. (more…)